Crumbs
We are used to accepting crumbs, aren’t we? Not only do we accept them when it comes to self-care and relationships, we accept them at work, in school, in politics, and in culture at large. We negotiate our own selves on the regular just to get a crumb of what we want because that is how life works for women.
My Battery Is at One Percent
Every December, I tell myself that this will be the year I keep my cool. That this Christmas will be filled with warmth and coziness and gratitude. And every December 26th, I find myself muttering, "Thank GOD that’s over."
Black Women Do Not Exist to Save You
Trust Black Women means nothing if your policies and institutions do not seek to elevate Black women and help combat issues that impact Black women.
No Country for "Good Guys"
The all-or-nothing worldview implied by the “good guy” label plays a number on the rest of us in society. It sends us the message that we can overlook allegations of sexual violence if the perceived sum total of the accused is deemed “good.”
Ask Ada: Working With Creepers And Giving Too Many Fucks
Our advice expert tackles working in a #MeToo world and how to give fewer (more deserving?) fucks.
I Was Invited To Give A TED Talk — Then Asked To 'Cut Black Lives Matter' From It
I was frustrated that I had been invited to give a talk on an idea I deemed worth sharing, only to be told that it was not worth sharing anymore because something similar had been shared 2–3 times recently. As if that’s anywhere near enough.
The Case for Hairy Pits
I’m thirty-eight years old, but sometimes I wake up in the morning and I want to feel sixteen. On these mornings, I do two things: I put in all my earrings (8), and I start growing my armpit hair.
The Open Web is Dead. Do We Have to Kill the Internet Too?
The ISPs have failed when it comes to innovation in the 21st century.
Shitty Apologies And The Shitty Men Who Give Them
While they are irritating, the non-apology apologies tell us something about what men – or at least these men – think about sex.
Please Don't Give Greta Gerwig an Oscar
When the lights came up, the first thing out of my (white girl) mouth, to my (white girl) friend was, “Jesus I’m tired of hearing about white girls.” I felt so bland after watching it.
The Empty Suitcase
"What in this house means the most to me, besides the obvious humans, cat, and dog?” It’s a tough question to answer, and one that you don’t really think about until you are staring at that suitcase. At least I didn’t.
The Wisdom of Anger
Anger is a powerful emotion and tool. It is our truth-teller, a superpower we all possess. It tells us that something isn’t right, and can be a powerful motivator to initiate change.
Raising Boys Who Aren't Assholes
When I found out my second child was a boy, I panicked. “I do not know how to do boys,” I thought.
Take the In Her Shoes Challenge
Women and children have unique health and social needs putting them at elevated risk of infectious diseases, sexual violence, and malnutrition when they are displaced.
Why We Can't Forgive Louis C.K.
If this new narrative is to stick, it has to be told again and again and again. We can’t give Louis C.K. a pass because he’s super talented and really, really sorry.
The GOP's Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day
Let’s talk about the Republicans and their terrible, horrible, no good, very bad Election Day, shall we?
Graceless Makers: Arden Egerton
The amount of equipment that accompanies the diabetic life is pretty astounding and pretty much all of it gets thrown away. Not, however, by Arden. She makes art with it.
Nerd Alert: A Mixtape With Too Much Detail
The Mueller indictment kicked the week off pretty decisively, immersing everyone in mountains of legal documents and their subsequent parsing.
Honoring the Autonomy of Others
Parents with older children tell me that this is the path of parenthood—to steadily transfer more autonomy and responsibility to the child as their will and autonomy dictates. But knowing what and when to hand over is not always clear.
Tell Me Something Graceless: From a Faithless Father
“How do I talk to the person I love the most about something big that we disagree on?”