Tag: relationships

Tell Me Something Graceless: Channelling Trump Hate & Falling In Love

Dear Ada, I can’t help but give incredibly dirty looks to anyone who “looks like” they voted for Trump. I am so bitter and angry with the state of the world, that I feel like I physically cannot contain my anger and resentment. I know that not all white men voted for Trump, and that I can’t just go around assuming that every white woman is a self-hating-anti-feminist-moron (I’m a white woman FYI), but my heart is so filled with rage that I feel like I’ll explode all day every day. Please help me to be more forgiving and...

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The Art of Being Alone Part 2: Welcome to Singledom

If you read my last article for Graceless, you know all about how psyched I was to move in on my own last fall. To recap, I’d been in a relationship for three and a half years, and rather than taking the normal-person next step of moving in together, I decided that I was way too young for cohabitation and wanted to live alone first. Six months later, I’m still absolutely thrilled with that decision. Except…surprise, surprise, now I’m not just living alone—I’m single. I’ve waffled about whether to write this follow-up for some time. I’m not usually the...

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When Harry Met Sally

I had a funny conversation with one of my girlfriends this weekend. She and I are about the same age and have been divorced the same amount of time. So we’re therefore in approximately the same dating spot. We’ve gone through a lot of relationship cycles since our marriages ended and are finally comfortable with what we want. She was telling me that a man she’d been out with a couple of times had suddenly reappeared after months of silence. He was texting her frequently, attempting to schedule dates that didn’t exactly seem like dates. “Let’s do yoga together!”...

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My First Year of Polyamory

I got the welcome message one year ago: “Hi, I’m Alice. I work here at OkCupid and thought you should have a few pointers to help get you started.” I had turned 40 in March. Celebrated my 20th wedding anniversary in May. And yet, there I was, on a drunken Saturday night with my beloved husband. We were sitting on the sofa, side-by-side, laptops in laps, creating new Gmail accounts and trying to come up with clever profile names and debating whether or not to include photos of ourselves. (I went with a hedgehog wearing a sombrero.) I was...

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