Tag: racism

Tell Me Something Graceless: Make A Life Without Making A Life

Hi Ada, How does one decide whether or not to have kids? On the one hand, kids are hard. They change everything. On the other, what else do you do with your life? Sincerely, Existential Elly Dear Elly, Oof. I feel this question so hard. I have the same debate every. damn. day. My first instinct is to say that if you’re ambivalent about having children, you should probs not have children. The truth is, most people probs shouldn’t have children. Unless you’re Barack and Michelle, and your genes are just too damn perfect not to pass on, you’re...

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I Am Not Fucking OK

Hi. My name is Erica and I am not fucking okay. Yes I am a strong black woman. • I have two college degrees. • I come from a well-to-do family. • I have run my own business for 15 years. • I can leg press more than you. • I hold up my man and my household. • I am (I hope) my friends’ most fierce support. • I love the Lord and myself more than anyone else. • My clients and contractors rely on me every day to get shit done. But I am not ok. You...

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