Tag: gender

When Harry Met Sally

I had a funny conversation with one of my girlfriends this weekend. She and I are about the same age and have been divorced the same amount of time. So we’re therefore in approximately the same dating spot. We’ve gone through a lot of relationship cycles since our marriages ended and are finally comfortable with what we want. She was telling me that a man she’d been out with a couple of times had suddenly reappeared after months of silence. He was texting her frequently, attempting to schedule dates that didn’t exactly seem like dates. “Let’s do yoga together!”...

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The Myth About Gender

When my husband and I found out we were pregnant with our first child, we agreed that we wouldn’t find out the baby’s sex.  There are few true mysteries in life, we mused, and we wanted to experience what seemed like the uncovering of a great secret.  I felt certain I was having a girl up until the moment Michael announced, “It’s a boy!”  I did not feel surprise or disappointment—dare I admit I felt somewhat relieved.  We named him Xavier and put our ‘girl name’—Zora—in our back pocket, imagining we’d use it for #2. And when we were...

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Comfort in Our Own Clothes

I was born bald.  My mother, raising a child in the 70s, dressed me in primary colored homemade clothing.  The sex of this sweet little bald child with gender neutral clothes caused a few comments and questions, much to my mother’s dismay.  This frustrated her so much that she not only taped – yes taped – a pink bow to my head, she also hand-embroidered “I am a Girl” on my clothes.  Where was Etsy when she needed it? Fast forward many years.  My mother’s bald little pink-bowed girl gets married, waits 11 years, and has a baby.  A...

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