Tag: babies

Tell Me Something Graceless: Make A Life Without Making A Life

Hi Ada, How does one decide whether or not to have kids? On the one hand, kids are hard. They change everything. On the other, what else do you do with your life? Sincerely, Existential Elly Dear Elly, Oof. I feel this question so hard. I have the same debate every. damn. day. My first instinct is to say that if you’re ambivalent about having children, you should probs not have children. The truth is, most people probs shouldn’t have children. Unless you’re Barack and Michelle, and your genes are just too damn perfect not to pass on, you’re...

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The Baby Myth

The older I get, the more I’m convinced that the decisions we make in life, the ones that truly deeply change us, are by accident. We always think we have a plan. And sometimes those plans result in good things. But the turns that really upend your life, putting you in a place you never thought you’d be—those are ones we can never possibly plan for. So it was that I had children. I never professed a desire to be a mother, even in my younger years. It just didn’t seem a role that fit me. So when I...

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